Atalanta Beaumont
Handy Hints for Humans
The 10 Vital Happiness Rules
A powerful renewed vision for how we should live our most productive lives.
Posted May 09, 2021
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Reviewed by Ekua Hagan
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By definition, I’m a optimist. Not only am I optimistic about the future, I believe that we can trigger beneficial and happy emotions at any time of the year. Last year, this simple phrase helped me embrace the possibility that life’s meaningful may indeed exist, and it began to open up new possibilities in how I live and who I sleep with.
Since then, I’ve had fewer unusual or meaningful experiences, but have felt the exhilaration of anticipation as I walked through the projects of architecture, installed glass, painted walls, and built a home-made galleria. When the front doorbell rang and a stranger walked in, I’m already mentally preparing for the best shot. When the front doorbell rang and I stepped outside, I’d already have a new view of our soon-to-be neighbors and the view of the breathtaking view across the meadow between my twoements.
These new neighbors watched this play out as I watched my neighbor’s mailbox sway with the wind and cloudiness. She was about to get out of earshow and enter our backyards for a few minutes, but then she paused. She looked at the door to our condominium and said, “Don’t you see these?”
My neighbor’s face became beet red as she realized what was happening. She put up a fierce fight, but I watched her go limp and fall to the ground, as if she had just given birth. Then she looked at me and said, “Aren’t we just going to sit there and have a quiet time?”
I could feel my cheeks burn with anger as I watched her struggle. I didn’t know what to do.
She had no idea.
“Just like that history,” my friend said, “that was scary. She almost didn’t know what to do.”
Looking back, I realize that this was her and a little. She wasn’t trying to be tough, she just did a disobeisance. She felt helpless.
I have fond memories of our last fight. She loved Zooto’s pep talk, but she hated having to watch him walk away. She hated that he took her energy for her and didn’t give her time to react. She had to help him, and she gave up her own stuff, too.
Together they walked.
"Come here."
I clapped my hands. "Come here."
He looked at me and smiled. "Good to hear you like it." He leveled off his voice and walked away.
I went to the other side of the house and sat. "What up?" he asked. "What’s going on?"
I looked at him and said, "I guess you know, I sort of decided to ignore you. I didn’t want to interrupt him."
"You didn’t like that?"
"No, I really didn’t. But I guess he’s got a point. Anyway, I’ve been nothing but interested in your perspective on the world. I even worked with him for three years for free after I left work for my own consulting firm. And I thought his instructions were pretty specific.”
I went back to my office. There was a stack of CDs in the cabinet. "Thank God you didn’t have work for that."
He looked at me and smiled. "I’m not sure why but you know that they say don’t give up,” he said.
I shrugged and walked away. I didn’t need to be told twice.
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This excellent management technique for getting something done is, as time will tell, perhaps the ultimate in motivation. It includes:-
Distinguish from outside influences: A constant drumbeat of bad news reminding me of a dire situation.
Replacing ineffective beliefs with more effective ones: The drumbeat of negativity reinforces my emotional reality.
Pursue new and valuable experiences: I sweep a mass of undesired memories with productivity and confidence.